Your personality style and your partner’s style.

When answering the following questions, think about yourself and your partner in terms of how you act in your relationship. Be as honest as possible. Sometimes we see ourselves differently than our partner does, and vice versa. This quiz is designed to give you a quick overview of your personality style, your partner’s style, and where your strengths and challenges are in your relationship. There are no right or wrong answers, and this is designed to bring you closer together, not to give you areas to pick each other apart. Our suggestion is to focus on what IS working, and pick ONE thing that you might want to work on together to change.

Choose the number that best represents where you are on the spectrum (self) and where your partner is on the spectrum. 5 is high. If neither applies, leave the dot in the middle.


Conscientious vs. Dominance

1. Takes time and care with decision making
Tends to make decisions quickly to move on
2. Is concerned with making a wrong decision
Is concerned with not making a decision
3. Takes time to get a rational perspective on conflict
Confronts conflict directly as soon as possible
4. Connects through the intellect
Connects through doing/activities
5. May come across as aloof in relationship
May come across as domineering in relationship
C Scores
Self 0
Partner 0
D Scores
Self 0
Partner 0

Support vs. Inspiration

6. Willing to accept support from your partner
Willing to guide the relationship
7. Likes a predictable, stable environment
Likes to make things fun and exciting
8. Tends to avoid conflict in order to maintain harmony
Tends to work through conflict in order to stay connected
9. Feels most connected when things are harmonious
Feels most connected when things are exciting
10. Challenge: you let yourself get walked on
Challenge: you overpromise and drop the ball
S Scores
Self 0
Partner 0
I Scores
Self 0
Partner 0

Inspiration vs. Dominance

11. Likes to think about what is possible
Likes to do what is practical
12. Values maintaining the relationship over getting things done
Values achieving goals over spending time maintaining the relationship
13. Handles conflict with care for the others’ feelings
Handles conflict bluntly
14. Likes to connect through excitement over new ideas
Likes to connect through completing a task together
15. Challenge: Unreliable
Challenge: Bossy
I Scores
Self 0
Partner 0
D Scores
Self 0
Partner 0

Conscientious vs. Support

16. Tends to be observant and reserved
Tends to be a trusted listener
17. Values accuracy & analysis
Values kindness & collaboration
18. Handles conflict with rational explanation
Has a tendency to ignore conflict for the sake of the relationship
19. Likes to connect through debating ideas
Likes to connect through sharing and showing support
20. Challenge: withdraws – doesn’t share thoughts and feelings
Challenge: avoids conflict to preserve harmony
C Scores
Self 0
Partner 0
S Scores
Self 0
Partner 0